Bet you had to read that title twice.
Yes, this is Governing Ana. Yes, this is Anastasia Vitsky (who has been dubbed by Jade Cary as “pretty uncorruptible”).
No, I don’t mean the number six in the Latin language. Nor do I mean a shortened form of six babies born at once.
A month or two ago, Sue Lyndon and I engaged in our usual teasing. She threatened to tell Mrs. Claus about me (which is supremely unfair); I threatened…well, I didn’t have much to threaten.
So what did I do? What any self-respecting woman would do when she finds herself outmaneuvered: Deflect and distract!
“If you write a F/F scene,” I challenged her, “I’ll write a sex scene.”
“You’re on!” Sue agreed.
“Nothing sexy for you!” I insisted.
Then, a few days later:
“If one of my Fs says that the other F has a shapely rear, does that count as sexy?”
I’d originally meant to give her that leeway, but I was faced with a daunting prospect. All Sue had to do was have one girl smack another. I had to write A SEX SCENE.
I’d have called off the deal, but I was afraid of what Sue would say. She’d have fodder for teasing me for at least the next year. Trust me when I say that no one wants to give Sue more fodder for teasing. She comes up with plenty on her own.
What was I to do? I talked to a few of my F/F author friends. Sandra Bunino, who recently published her first F/F book under the name of Scarlet Chastain, gave me advice and sent me an ARC of Bella Key. Virginia Nelson talked me through some ideas and strategies for how to handle an F/F sex scene.
They both read Simple Gifts in order to get a sense for Carene and Leila, and they helped me figure out ways to write the sex that would fit with the story but still satisfy readers.
Focus on the music, Virginia said. Focus on the emotions, they both said.
I talked with Kate Richards. I was concerned about the mechanics of the scene. With Leila injured in her dominant hand, how would the sex work? Should she use some…ahem…aids that would compensate for her using her non-dominant hand?
Sex is more than a laundry list of actions, Kate said.
Maybe writing sex is a bit like writing spanking? Is that why people find my stories sensual and intimate, even without sex? When I write spanking scenes, I focus on the emotions and the connections.
What I’ve learned in writing my first sex scene is that it’s not actually about the sex. Anyone can write a description of a certain body part manipulating another body part. But to get behind the physical actions and to express the deep connection…that’s what it is about.
I wrote my first sex scene, but I hope that my long-time readers won’t think less of me. I promise that I’m still the same Ana. Come back tomorrow and see for yourselves.