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Last week, I talked about my love for Mother Gothel (specifically for her hairbrush). I’ve since been accused of loving her simply because she’s evil, so let me clarify. If Mother Gothel had no hairbrush, I wouldn’t like her as much. The hairbrush is important, people. 🙂
What I find especially hilarious: after Tangled came out, Donna Murphy (the voice of Mother Gothel) had to explain to her 5-year-old daughter why she really didn’t want to make-believe that she (daughter) was Rapunzel and Donna was Mother Gothel. I laughed so hard at that one! 😀
While Daddy Dominants have become a staple of spanking and DD/ttwd, Mommy Dominants are a fairly rare breed. Mommy Dominants, when they do exist, generally refer to female disciplinarians of men rather than women. One subset of Mommy Dominants is those who punish their husbands by dressing them in female clothing.
However, is that the only type of Mommy Dominant? Absolutely not! Last year, I wrote about the need for expanding our ideas of F/F spanking, specifically the stereotype of female spankers. I proposed “Fearsome Teacher Mom,” or FTM, as a new model for a Mommy Dominant who could instill fear, love, and discipline with a single spanking.
Now picture FTM (or any other kind of Mommy Dominant) with a hairbrush.
I personally am not comfortable with the term “Mommy Dominant,” but there doesn’t seem to be another parallel to “Daddy Dominant,” at least that I can find. Perhaps it speaks to the marginalization of female dominants, the tendency of some female dominants to work professionally rather than in nurturing relationships, and the tendency of female dominants to seek male submissives.
The closest I can think of is Mommie Dearest, a book and film that inspired both fantasies and scoffing. *That* was a spanking? Pfft! 🙂 (Disclaimer: No, I do not support spanking of actual children, and yes I understand this film depicted physical abuse of a child.) To be fair, the film is rather overdramatic and hard to take seriously.
But! I must confess that the evil mother spanking may have perhaps sparked a tiny bit of fantasy. 😀 Just a little. Had “Mommie” used a hairbrush, I would have been sold.
What’s so great about a hairbrush, you ask?
The first time I read about a girl receiving a spanking from an older woman, it was with a hairbrush. (And no, it wasn’t a spanking story but mainstream children’s fiction. Remember when regular stories included spanking?)
Unlike a cane, riding crop, or paddle, a hairbrush (or wooden spoon) speaks of domestic life, maternal discipline rather than leather, handcuffs, and a St. Andrew’s cross. A hairbrush speaks of love and care.
(Second disclaimer: BDSM discipline is given with love, too, but there is an almost vanilla quality to hairbrush and wooden spankings that we can’t find in the other methods.)
Kat received a large, heavy hairbrush for Christmas last year, and she hates it. She threw away the first version, and she’s been warned what will happen if she pulls that stunt again.
Mira, in her upcoming sequel, also will encounter a hairbrush.
Methinks the hairbrush will win that round. 😉
How about you? Are you a fan of hairbrushes?