Life has gotten complicated very, very fast.
Long story short: I moved my friend, baby, and cat into my home this week after her husband’s violence escalated. We’re all struggling to take each step forward. She is as safe as we can hope for now, although there are risks involved with her going to work.
This means I am not going to be available most of today and a good part of tomorrow. We’ve gotten what numbers we can for legal aid and other resources, but there’s only so much we can do until we get answers.
I am overwhelmed, not by having her with me but the sheer exhaustion of playing chauffeur, chef, nanny, housekeeper, personal assistant, and resource manager. I’m not feeling terribly thankful, so this is the time I need thankfulness the most. Reasons I am thankful:
- Friend and baby are out of danger.
- My wonderful quilting grannies are giving what help they can so friend can start building a support network independent of her husband.
- Baby is adjusting to new situation. Of course there are issues, but overall he is happy, eating well, and playing.
- I have a wonderful network of friends who can listen, support, and help me with my own issues as we go through this. It’s bringing up a lot of emotional stuff for me, and we’re taking it one day at a time.
- I am thankful I was able to leave a relationship in my past that placed me in danger.
- I am thankful to have a home, car, credit card, bank account, and computer. Hard to get by without the essential paperwork.
- I am thankful for friends who stayed up late last night to talk me down from a breaking point. I think neither my friend nor I realized just how vast the ramifications would be when I said to her, “Do you want to come home with me?” I want her safe with me instead of in danger, but it’s going to take a lot of grace, strength, and pure stubbornness on both sides to get through this.
- I am thankful for friends who have been in similar situations who can be resources. One is visiting from out of town next week, and she escaped a horrible situation when we first became friends. She’s made it, and there are quite a few others in my circle of friends who have made it.
Thankful for safety. Will be thankful for sleep when I can get it, too. 🙂
Love and hugs.