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I met Kellie Kamryn a few years ago and enjoyed her crisp, clear writing. She’s known for turning cartwheels at conferences, often in the street and with a video camera running. When she posted about healing last month, it was a perfect message for Advent Calendar. We all bring our hurts and emotional difficulties to the season, no matter how we try to focus on the positive. Maybe we can’t contact family members, for any number of reasons. Maybe we struggle with mental and/or chronic illness. Maybe employment and financial difficulties seem crushing. Or maybe it’s the more prosaic difficulties of a frustrating spouse/boss/child/neighbor. Maybe we really, really hate putting up those stupid lights.
Whatever your difficulty might be this year, I’ve invited you to honor those losses. At the same time, I also invite you to find strength amidst the loss. I hope that you will find comfort in Kellie’s post today. If you don’t, that’s okay, too. Different messages speak to different people. I hope, though, that today we can honor the strength in ourselves and in the people we love (and sometimes hate!).
If Kellie’s post doesn’t speak to you, how have you tried to cope with difficulties? What strategies and suggestions do you have?
Hi – this is Kellie Kamryn. I’m a romance author who spins fictional worlds for people to dive into, columnist for The Aquarian online where I keep it real to help others take charge of their lives, and a mom of four—my most important job. As a narrator, I help bring people’s books to life, and assist other’s in finding a new voice for their work. My Facebook posts on occasion spark good conversation. I like conversation. I enjoy engaging people, and I love it if I’ve said something that makes other people think. That’s how this post came about. After a lifetime of seeking validation from the external world, I’m learning how to go inward. This is a topic that’s talked a lot about, yet people aren’t sure how to achieve it. With my mentors guiding me, and from learning to listen to my own Heart, I am working on emotional healing, and taking responsibility for my life.
If you don’t think you can change the world, think again. Everything outside of you is but a symptom of what is happening in your inner world. This can be a very difficult concept to absorb, especially if someone is in a less than desirable situation. If you are being mistreated, you do not deserve it. Find the courage to leave or change the situation. This concept does not seek to make anything others do to you your fault. What it gives you is the power to look inside of yourself to determine how you want to change a situation.
Once you have changed your situation, take time to heal, lance your emotional wounds, purge the poison plaguing your heart, and halt the efforts your ego has to attack others outside of yourself. We often hear talk about how we let our “ego’s” get in the way. They can and we do let them. However, this isn’t to say your ego is your enemy; rather it seeks to protect you from yourself. Often when we leave a painful situation behind, we promise ourselves we will never do it again. Yet, we do repeat our past patterns, sometimes in ways very similar to what we left behind, other times in ways we don’t expect. If you never go inside and heal your hurts, your ego and Heart will always be at war. You will always find fault in others if you do not look inward, and take emotional responsibility for yourself.
Emotional responsibility is something I work on daily. Often, I’m too hard on myself by not using my Voice to speak up for myself. I’m a compassionate person, and I tend to accept people as they are, which sometimes leads me to not saying something to someone when I clearly should because I accept that they “are who they are”. However, others cannot or will not ever seek to be responsible for their own emotions, if I do not say what is on my mind. If it is done with the correct intent, then I cannot help how others will react to what I have to say. All I can tell is my truth.
How do I know this? Because I constantly work on it. I have amazing individuals in my life who assist me on my journey, and I’m far from done. Yet I have seen how much can change just by going through the process I have so far. Relationships have changed because I’ve chosen to heal myself, and not stay bogged down in ideals that no longer suit me. Becoming emotionally responsible for my half of relationships and friendships is an important part of my personal process. Opportunities have opened up for me and in turn, I have the chance to give back to others. By changing my inner world—which includes, but not limited to, raising my self-esteem, using my Voice, and speaking my truth—the outer world does change. I am thankful for others who practice this too. The more people who examine their inner world and make important changes there first, the more the outside world will be a better place.
Everything comes full circle. Let the circle begin with YOU.
Book 2 – Vernal Vexation
For three months, Kayla Webber has spent nearly every waking moment with Kaleb Warner, the man who shares her heart. Between training and getting to know each other, she’s had little time for herself. When Kaleb disappears for a few days, she welcomes the respite.
Meditation during the Vernal Equinox brings on a disturbing vision of Kaleb with another woman. Shaken up, Kayla travels home to her guardians for guidance. Before Kaleb returns, she must battle her own Shadow to keep the Darkness from taking what matters most to her Heart.
Sometimes you have to get lost in the dark before you find your way back to the light.
- Day 1: Welcome and Introductions
- Day 2: Giving Tuesday
- Day 3: 2nd Annual Holiday Recipe Exchange
- Day 4: Hating the Elf on the Shelf
- Day 5: Blue Christmas
- Day 6: St. Knickerless Day
- Day 7: Beyond Fairytales
- Day 8: Beginner’s Guide to Lesfic
- Day 9: Holiday Carol Sing-a-long
- Day 10: Creating Something Good, Part 1