Women and girls face unique challenges based on sexism, patriarchy, and flat-out misogyny. Long-time readers may remember that I began writing F/F for feminist and not sexuality-based reasons.
I try not to get too political because, honestly, I’m here to write/sell books and create a community of those who read my books. But every once in a while, the thoughtless sexist comments get to be too much and I climb onto my soapbox. This post received such a strong response yesterday on my Facebook that I am reposting it here.
By the way, being a woman does not mean we are free from misogyny. Some of the worst insults and demeaning comments are issued from one woman to another. I hope you’ll consider how we talk and think about women, and commit to treating women with dignity. A woman should be more than her physical un/attractiveness or reproductive parts.
Women are physically attractive. Or not. Everyone has a different opinion.
Do we ask if a woman is intelligent?
Or do we call her uppity?
Do we ask if a woman has good leadership skills?
Or do we call her bossy?
Do we praise a woman for having the courage to make hard decisions for the sake of a group?
Or do we call her aggressive?
Do we ask if a woman is competent and good at her job?
Or do we call her pushy?
Do we ask if a woman has received mentorship and networking?
Or do we ask whether she is less committed to her job because she might marry and/or become pregnant?
Do we expect a woman to be capable?
Or do we hover, waiting for her to prove doubts correct?
Do we ask whether a woman advocates for reform, ethics, and changing the world?
Or do we complain that she isn’t “nice”?
Simply put, do we value women as complete human beings contributing to society in their own right?
Or do we reduce them, again and again, to merely a physical appearance and outward characteristics?
And all of the words for female reproductive parts that have been turned into insults.
A man is not an object of scorn, but his mother is.
What do we call a bad man? A son of a what? Right. Who is at fault? The woman who conceived and birthed him.
Comments that shame and demean women will not be tolerated in Ana’s world. Comments that reduce women to objects of straight and/or male sexual desire are also unwelcome.
Respect women in Ana’s World, or find another sandbox to play in.
(This post is in honor of every quilting granny, mentor, teacher, and woman who brought me to this place in my life. I love you and thank you.)